Pulling Down Your Online Dating Profile After Finding the One

Deciding whether to unplug your online dating profile is a common conundrum faced by tens of millions of recently hooked up couples. Pulling the plug too early before she ditches her dating profile could make you second guess her motives, probably unjustly. While ever her dating profile remains live, leaves the door open for the odd bout of insecurity and paranoia. “She seems really into me why is her profile still up”?

If you pull the plug too late, she might think you’re just playing games and leaving your options open.

Unplug Together, it’s all in the Timing

When you both feel the time is right, plan a special date night and pull each others plugs simultaneously. Gauging if you’re both on the same wavelength is crucial, and the best way to attain this is to have the exclusivity chat. (The chat about if you’re both ready to date exclusively)

Some people who are blindsided by great sex and emotions often assume their new online friend should automatically pull their profile and change their Facebook status. Knowing what stage of the friendship you are both at sets up the scene to either continue on casual dating or an exclusive arrangement.

Online dating has a reputation for attracting serial daters and in my research and experiences, has somewhat killed commitment in this dating space. According to The Daily Mail, millions of women think of online dating as a commitment killer which can ruin your chance for lasting romance.  The Daily also reported that “many women considered online dating suitable only for a fling”.

The online dating sites scene in Australia is one of the fastest growing regions in the world for online romances as reported by The Sydney Morning Herald. Vast rural and remote communities in Australia are behind the emerging growth of online dating down under with 17% of online romances converting to marriage.

In the U.S. the fastest demographic for online dating usage lies in the over 65’s age bracket. Surprising given how reliant the younger age brackets rely on Internet and social technologies.

Colleen Gentle, a 68 year-old widower from Salisbury in South Australia stated in her dating profile that she’s using online dating because she’s “afraid of missing the boat in her twilight years and yearns for a relationship with a caring man.”

The online dating industry internationally pulls more than 1 billion dollars annually according to the Match Maker Institute, yet long lasting love still eludes an estimated 80% of subscription paying members.


Pulling down your online dating profile is a touchy subject. If you have developed genuine feelings for someone you met online, don’t feel worried about addressing this issue. Don’t feel as though you need to spy on one another to establish exclusivity. An imbalance of online activity can lead to unnecessary resentment and mistrust, which is a terrible way to enter a new relationship. If your new online friend is evasive and unreluctant to deal with this matter, perhaps heartbreak is the inevitable outcome if you continue to push forward.